Thursday, February 2, 2012

Hang on

I (Jess) am so happy to be back on the blog with y'all !!! I am the single one of the bunch, and today I am just going to share with you all what God has been teaching me about trusting in him, which has helped my relationship with the Lord grow tremendously. I am learning that being single is not the easiest boat to be in because lets face it we all desire to be loved. I have learned that the key is to always put God first in your life, and do not fill your heart with anything but his love. That can be hard because as humans we desire to be accepted and loved by someone who is tangible. Very often, we turn our focus off of God because we want to feel loved by people that can give us a hug/kiss, audibly speak to us, spend quality time with us, and the list goes on and on. If you constantly seek satisfaction in what is to come you are missing out on so much when we do not fully trust that God's love is enough to quench our desire, in the book of Jeremiah we find a promise that changes everything for the better, " For I know the plans that I have for you" declares the Lord, "They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future of hope." We should all rest assured in that promise, and continue on being completely content every day, but it's not that easy is it? It takes work to trust completely in the Lord.

Before I was walking with the Lord and pursuing a relationship with Him, my mindset was not focused on Him, instead I was determined to quench my desire for love through a relationship with a guy. I was the girl who always had a boyfriend.  I was WAY too dependent on those past relationships for satisfaction. I did not know who I was in Christ; so therefore, I made my image in the shadow of my relationship with a guy. The truth is that there is no guy that can fully satisfy any loneliness, sadness, brokenness that you may be feeling, but Jesus can take care of it all and show love to you. I knew that Jesus wanted to care for and express His to love me, but I continued to put him on the back burner because I was living for what brought immediate comfort. However, my plan for a quick fix to my thirsting desire for love always left me empty and lonely. I was missing the one real and true relationship, that could fulfill my feelings of loneliness, sadness, and brokenness.

 I knew that God was pushing me to let go and let Him take control of my life, but I was scared to leave the relationship. Finally, after God did some major pushing on my heart  I  let go.

Since then it has been quite a journey, only because I did not completely turn to God after the breakup. I began to try to seek out other relationships none of which turned into anything. 


After many hardships that I faced in my life due to my own poor choices, I  completely surrendered to God.  I admitted that I could no longer face the journey alone. 

I was weak.
I had to take responsibility for my life.
I let go of all my regrets, fears, and burdens and LET GOD take full control.
God began making it clear that He wanted to start rebuilding our relationship, and I acknowledged that no guy could fill my heart the way Jesus Christ was filling me up. 

Some of you do not have stories anything like mine. Many of you have kept your life on the righteous path for quite sometime now, but you are still waiting for the Lord to bring the guy into your life, right ? I know how tough waiting can be for us, but you are waiting for a reason and God is going to bless you for being obedient and faithful to Him.

Don't lose hope, and this is the reason why,
"O Lord, how long will you forget me? FOREVER?
How long will you look the other way?
How long must I struggle with anguish in my soul,
with sorrow in my heart every day?
How long will the enemy have the upper hand ?

  [here is the key]

But I trust in your unfailing love.
I will rejoice because you have rescued me.
I will sing to the Lord
because he is good to me."

Psalm 13:1-2, 5-6

If you dwell on what is missing in your life then you are not showing that you trust God because you are seeking another relationship to satisfy your thirst for love. You must focus your thoughts on Jesus when your heart and mind grow weary and tired of waiting because there is no need in seeking the "right guy" when God has promised us good. Also, remember that trying make a relationship work out the way you want and force it into play is only going to set you back further; so therefore, just hang onto your faith very tightly, and trust that God has not forgotten about you or the amazing guy that you will be with one day. You will be amazed with what he can do in your life when you let go of your own desires and let him fill you with his unfailing love.

If you are single right now and waiting just know that you will be ready for the relationship because you gave God time to prepare your heart. There will be no doubt about how to incorporate Christ into the center of the relationship because you both will have waited on each other, which means you both have put your trust in God to bring you together. Your trust in Him will be deeply rooted in that relationship, which will be be most solid foundation that that you could ever ask for !!
 the love that you both have for Jesus will be amazing--HANG ON, sweet girls !!!

Keep turning your thoughts to Jesus, and focusing on the present with solid assurance in God's timing for your future man! Your day is coming but you have to trust in THE ONE relationship that matters the most ! 

With love,


  1. Sounds a lot like my testimony! You've got it right, girl. :) And remember what I are still SO young (and so are your friends!) - you have plenty of time to meet your husband someday and get married! I know you don't want to hear that though. LOL

  2. I love this Jess, so thanks for it! I feel like you may have written this just for me! I've been single for 3 years now -- 3 years on Valentine's Day, no less! -- and I go back and forth between feeling like I'm missing something and wanting that tangible love you talk about, to feeling like I don't need anyone at all and I'll never find anyone. But this is a good reminder that I just need to let go, and let God! In time, he'll send the right person my way, I just have to be willing and ready. I know it's not going to happen if I'm not in the right place spiritually, so I have to prepare myself first! So, thanks and love you!

  3. I love this. . .my story is similar and your words are so easy to relate to. Thank you!!